An Adults Idea

I never really thought I was the adventurous type, I always figured I was the calm and quiet one. I always had the impression from people around me that I was quite boring, and to be honest, just nothing worth getting excited over.

Whenever I was in a relationship it was usually quite boring really, there was never much excitement, only ever in the beginning. I know what you're thinking, that all relationships are great in the beginning and then get boring, but with me, this is the story of my life! I am always the one who gets picked last for sports teams, the one who no one ever wanted to be paired with or sit next to. I am boring, I always was, and I thought I always would be. It never occurred to me that all I might need was a little push in the right direction, a little bit of a shock to awaken me and find my inner confidence.

I am part of a gentle, average marriage. My wife is more outgoing than me, it is a wonder we are even working as a couple. We are very different, but we do seem to work well together, I will never understand loveif I am honest. My partner is quite a popular figure, because of her I have made friends with people I would probably have never bumped into before.

It is her friends that got us into swinging. I never even thought about the concept of swinging, me and swinging just don't go together in a sentence! To touch another person when I am happily married just always seemed a little odd to me. I knew though that I was not happy with my low self esteem, and also, what if I didn't want to do this but my wife did? Then what? I wouldn't want her leaving me because I didn't fulfill her completely.

As it happens, my wife was very good at persuading me, I know I love her, and I know she loves me, it isn't about love for other people, it is just about experience really. I would have thought that swinging is just not the best thing for a marriage, what if it breaks you up? It is strange though, as it happens swinging has made our marriage exciting, more filled with love, passion, ecstasy. I feel more confident in myself, more than I ever have before.